The 2 Types Of People Empaths Must Limit Their Association With
As an Empath, you are prone to being sucked into the vortex of 2 types of people. These individuals will drain every ounce of energy you have, if you allow them to do so. When you’re unaware of the following people, it’s easy to get tricked into giving them your time and energy, leaving you depleted, resentful, and spinning in circles.
1.) Needy People
This type of person may have a heart of gold, which causes you to have compassion and want to help them in any way possible. You feel sorry for them, so you give, give, and give some more. In the end, you want what’s best for them, and by working to keep them “happy,” you’re actually prolonging their pain and suffering. Lets think about it, why are people needy in the first place? Simply, they have yet to develop the skill of filling their own cup, so they unconsciously and sometimes consciously take from your energetic cup. How do you know this is occurring? After you leave the person, you’ll feel drained out of your mind. At times they will use passive aggressive behavior and manipulation to get what they are desiring: more of your energy and resources. In the moment, It will appear as if you’re helping these people because you’re satisfying their needs, but in all reality you’re prolonging their pain and suffering.
Remember, if you’re the one being needy, don’t get all flustered and bash yourself too much. Simply own up to it and begin the process of changing. The solution to being a needy person is enough self care. My definition of self care is taking care of your thoughts, body, and overall energy. Exercise, following your bliss, mediating, and eating nutritious whole foods are a few ways to generate an abundance of energy in your life. If you generate an abundance of your own energy, you will never look for it in others, inevitably eliminating your need to be needy.
2.) Narcissistic People
These types of people don’t have a care in the world about anybody but themselves. They are only focused on satisfying their own needs. Hence, they’re needy as well! They can come off as generous and may be hard to spot at first. At times they will “help” out people in numerous ways , but with the end goal of controlling the situation. They are fueled by control and some narcissist are sharp enough to know how to manipulate their way into power. Don’t let their temporary power fool you.
Their actions can come off as loving, but as you know, it’s not the act but the intention and energy of the act that truly matters. The biggest thing to understand is narcissists prey on people with big hearts: that is YOU. How do you know you’re dealing with a narcissist? One sign is you’ll feel like you’re on the most fucked up and chaotic rollercoaster ride. The narcissist will get you on a high, and then as soon as you’re feeling good they will pull you back down. Keep in mind, they do not want you to be empowered, because if you are, you would realize how dysfunctional and unhealthy they are for your life. This is why they will always pull you back down if you’re on too much of a high. In other words, you’ll feel like you’re constantly playing mind games.
in my opinion, needy and narcissistic people can change. Spending all of your time and energy trying to please these types of people will only do harm to you and to them. The only way they will ever change is by stopping the people pleasing and instead speaking your truth. In the end, the universe will thank you for having the courage to stand in your power.
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